Wednesday, September 26, 2012

Missing Ella's Birthday

My baby will turn two on Sunday...and I won't be home to celebrate with her.

My husband's grandmother passed away over the weekend, and he would like for me to go with him to Montana for the service on Saturday morning.  When we got the call, my parents were already on their way down to spend a week with us, and I wasn't about to take Ella away from there.  I also wasn't too excited about the thought of a two hour drive, three hour flight, three hour drive to get to his parents' house--especially when we would have pay for her return flight on Sunday, which happens to be her birthday.  So it was decided that my husband and I would go (he actually already had a plane ticket purchased so that he could go to his friend's wedding that night), and leave Ella home with my parents.

We'll celebrate her birthday a couple of days early tomorrow before our flight, and I know that she doesn't understand that her birthday is actually Sunday (in fact, if anything, I think that she thinks that this whole entire month is her birthday--at the rate that she has been asking me to sing "Happy Birthday" to her), but it still makes me sad that I won't be here to truly celebrate with her on her actual birthday.  Our flight gets in at 8:00 pm, but we'll have a two hour drive back, so she'll definitely be asleep by the time we get home, but you better believe that I'm going to pick up my big two-year-old for some middle-of-the-night birthday snuggles as soon as I can.

Today's blessing is having my parents in town to visit and help out.  Ella clearly adores them and is having so much fun with them.  We only get to see each other three or four times a year, so it's so great to be able to have this quality time with them.


  1. Oh, I'm sorry:( Sorry first of all for your loss, and also sorry that you won't be there for the actual day (though I do think you're this age it's going to be a relative concept and it sounds like her birthday month is a very nice one indeed). It sounds like your husband really values your support - it's good that he asks outright. I think so many people would want - keenly - for their life partner to offer. Good on him that he asked (and good on you that you will go). But. I understand your wistfulness, too.

    I hope Ella gets a lovely nighttime cuddle on her birthday.

    (PS: Great news about the 28 day cycle!)

  2. So sorry for your loss, it's so painful to lose a grandparent.
    And sorry you won't be with your little girl on her actual birthday. Hugs!

  3. I'm sorry about your husband's grandma passing away :( you will be such a great comfort to him and his parents will appreciate you both coming despite having to miss your baby's birthday. I know you feel all sorts of guilt but she is in good hands and will always remember her birthday where her grandpa and grandma spoil her silly :) Enjoy your snuggles - this reminds me of the Robert Munsch book 'I'll love you forever" and the mom sneaks into his room to pick him up for a hug ;)

    hugs Laura

  4. I'm so sorry about your husband's grandma. Lots of love.

    We were away from W on his 2nd brithday. We went to a wedding that needed an overnight stay. We celebrated the weekend before and left W with his grandparents for the big day. They loved every second of having him all to themselves!

  5. Awe I'm sorry you won't be w/your little girl on her birthday. I can understand how you feel. Please give your husband my condolences on the loss of his grandma.


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