Wednesday, March 16, 2011

Back to Back

Yesterday I shared that a former colleague had lost her son in a stillbirth.  This morning I found out that another friend didn't see a heartbeat after seeing one two weeks ago.  It seemed like things were going so well in my own little world, and then just like that--back to back--two friends experience loss.

I know that just because I had a baby, all is not suddenly right with the world.  Just because I got my happy ending doesn't mean that every story will finish like mine.  I'm painfully aware that pregnancies end too soon, and that arms are still left empty.  I now view life through a lense of what has been or what could be lost--but I also view life through a through a lense of what has been and can be gained.  And although I recognize that we all process these experiences in different ways, I would imagine that these women will begin to do something similar. 

Please pray for this friend as she recovers from the physical trauma of today's D&C and the emotional turmoil that comes from losing this baby that she desires.

This may sound insignificant, but today's blessing is qualifying for 2-day free shipping from Amazon so that I could order a book that helped me through my losses for each of these women.  I hope to put together a little "survival kit" for each of them, the way that a friend did for me.


  1. You are so incredibly thoughtful. I've thought of our friend, and how I might be able to help but had no idea. I think your caring gesture will make a big difference to them. You are a blessing!

  2. I am so sorry, Laura. I greatly appreciate and admire your caring heart for these women.

  3. I still can't get over the stillbirth. It is devastating. I've said it before, but I think that after losing a baby, and after a complicated/dangerous pregnancy on top of it, that you never view having babies the same way. Bad things can happen to good people, and can happen to you, and you never are quite comfortable ever again.

    I know your survival kit helped me so much, Laura, after Wild Thing, and it will be a blessing to our friend :)

  4. You are a good friend and these ladies are blessed to have you in their lives during such a hard time. I will keep both of them in my prayers. It's amazing how something like this can make all those memories appear so fast.

  5. I am saddened to hear of the tragic turn of events in your friend's lives. It is never easy to hear of other's losses and it just pains me to know that like you said, even though we have our happy ending, there are many still going through their trials and tribulations. You are such a blessing to your friends - stay strong for them!

  6. It's amazing how sensitive you become to losses once you have experienced it...or even the possibility of a loss. What a blessing you will be to them during this time. What book is it that you read? Would love to read it.


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