- Buy maternity clothes?
- Start your baby registry?
- Purchase furniture for the nursery?
- Decide on a name?
- Schedule your baby shower?
- Make your first "personal purchase" for your baby?
- Begin to decorate the nursery?
- Plan your Lamaze/breastfeeding/parenting classes?
I think a lot of it comes down to recognizing that my sister-in-law lost her son at 30 weeks. She and I talked about her experience recently, which I think was good for both of us. After her experience, she is a bit cautious. After my own experience and witnessing her late loss, I too am a bit cautious. When I first looked (just looked...did not purchase or even order a sample) at bedding, her gut reaction was "Wow! That's so soon!". And I can't help but agree with her--it was scary to give my heart the chance to fall in love with the design (which is why I still haven't purchased it and continue to put off ordering a $3 sample). And yet, the various websites seem to suggest that you should at least order your furniture by 22 weeks, if nothing else.
And so we did. Yesterday. We looked on Wednesday after our appointment while my husband was in town with me, and it turns out that there was a 20% off sale through Thursday. So he went back on Thursday and made the purchase. (Eek!) I'm mostly excited. I want this to happen! I'm ready for this to happen! I hope that he'll spend the long weekend moving furniture for me so as to prepare the room that will serve as our nursery. But I have to admit that part of me is still afraid of losing our baby girl and then being stuck with a room full of beautiful nursery furniture. I know that I shouldn't think this way. I know that my sister-in-law's late loss was a freak accident that does not typically happen, and I shouldn't let that hold us back. I should move forward as if this really is happening...as if we truly will bring a beautiful baby girl home with us in September. All I can do is take it one day at a time...which still leaves me wondering...when? Which day (or week or month) is the "right" time to take these steps? I really am curious to hear what sort of timeline others have followed.
Although I admit that I was anxious about buying the furniture, I still recognize that it was a blessing that my husband felt ready to make the purchase. He is wonderful about how he manages our money, so he didn't have any qualms about the price. Yes, I'm still rather frugal (it's okay--you can call me "cheap"--I don't mind), but I am also very blessed that he is so careful with where our money goes.